I guess it is a flaw in my personality. Here is a post from a blog called Brass Pills. A woman wrote about her boyfriend with the old “Woe is me. What should I do plaint?” The blogger gave his opinion. I have no problem with his advice. However, I can’t help thinking that he didn’t go far enough.
My boyfriend and I dated for over a year now. Things have been great. I even moved into his apartment since the whole quarantine started. Over the weekend we were drinking a little wine and talking about our past relationships when I asked him what was the worst thing he did to an ex. Now, I asked this question after telling him a funny story about my ex so I thought he would do the same but what he revealed shocked me.
He said that he took the dog he shared with his ex fiancee to the vet and had him euthanized. There was absolutely nothing wrong with the dog. My boyfriend was angry over the break up. His ex fiance wanted nothing more to do with him but had asked to take their dog with her. He had felt his ex fiancee loved the dog more so he had asked for one more day with the dog, drove to the vet and watched their dog of 6 years get put to death.
I’m an animal lover but I don’t want any pets because I don’t have the means or time to take care of them. That said, I would never punished an animal because of what’s happening between me and another person. And God, the way my boyfriend told this story with this small smile on his face. It scared and disgusted me.
It’s been almost 4 days since he told me and things between us are now weird. He tried to initiate sex today but I told him I was tired and needed to sleep but I’m still wide awake. I can’t stop thinking about what he did. By all accounts my boyfriend was a wonderful, loving and caring man but now I see him in a new light. I told my close friends about this and they don’t see what’s the problem. They asked if I’m really going to break up a stable relationship over what he did to a dog over 8 years ago but they didn’t see the look on his face when he told me. I’m sure a part of him had enjoyed it. If he’s willing to euthanized a dog over a break up then what isn’t he willing to do? That’s what I’m afraid of. I don’t know what to do. I broke my lease to come live with my boyfriend but…there’s a part of me that doesn’t want to stay here anymore.
Has anyone else ever dealt with this kind of thing? Dated someone who euthanized their healthy pet out of spite? What did you do and what should I do? I’m so confused.
(I did reached out to his ex fiancee to confirmed if the story was true and she told me it was but to never contact her again before blocking me on Facebook.)
Boyfriend is one sick son-of-a-bitch. From where I sit there is no question as to the appropriate response. That is the problem. She decided to take a survey to figure out the right thing to do.
My circle of law enforcement cronies had a saying, “Do the right thing, right now.” This is a acknowledgement that the right thing is often obvious, but it is also time sensitive.” It doesn’t require a committee meeting, a debate, or an up or down vote. The right thing deals with morality.
The only reason I can think of to put this situation out to friends is as a cull factor. Anybody who would dismiss boyfriend’s action is not worthy of trust. It seems to me she needs a whole new set of friends also. I’m starting to see a trend.
I can’t help thinking that replacement boyfriend isn’t going to be any bargain either. The answer as to boyfriend #1 is obvious. There was only question that she needed answered. “Do you know a good moving company?”
Ultimately, she terminated the relationship and moved out.